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A good friend is hard to find.
- Menolink all things menopause
- May 6
- 2 min read
My Name and Age
Pat 52
My MenoJourney Story
I wanted to tell you my story even though it’s not completely related to the menopause. Its more related to being middle aged but I can’t help thinking that I would have coped better if I was in my 30’s.
I’m 52 and I’ve been on HRT for about 4 years. My doctor put me on it when my anxiety levels got out of control and I became extremely depressed. It wasn’t like me at all but the HRT did help and my mood is pretty stable now.
It was last summer when I realised something obvious. My husband and me decided to try a boating holiday in France and thought it would be best to go with friends so we could cope with all the locks. We hadn’t noticed until then but we didn’t have any proper friends anymore.
Over the past five years, life has thrown some curveballs. One of my oldest mates ditched me over Brexit—pretty harsh, and honestly, not much of a friend. Two friends passed away, two couples split up and we don’t see them anymore, and another two couples moved away. Then there’s this group of three couples we used to hang out with loads—they had a huge bust-up over Covid’s origins (wild, right, especially with what’s come out since). We stayed out of the drama, but we don’t see them anymore either. Now, we’ve got a couple of “friends” left, but we’ve got to watch how often we see them—they’re fun but total freeloaders who’ll soak up your hospitality and never give back.
Anyway, instead of our boating trip, we went on a walking holiday, and I had some deep chats with my husband. I realized I’ve been feeling pretty lonely and isolated since losing those friends, and I’m sure it’s made my anxiety worse. I stopped doing girls’ nights, we quit hosting, and I really miss all that. We live in a super rural spot in Lancashire, and with the kids moved out, meeting new people isn’t easy. When we got back, I decided to shake things up—started a yoga class and joined the local Ramblers group to connect with folks. I’ve met a couple of people, but building real friendships takes time, as I’ve learned the hard way. Still, I’m loving the yoga and walks!
Spread your friendship net wide.
My Symptoms
Brain Fog, Weight Gain, Low Mood & Anxiety, Sleeplessness
What Worked
Products or Advice That Worked
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What Didn't Work - Beware
Products or Advice that DIDN'T work
Isolation
I wish I'd known....
You need friends and good ones are few and far between.
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